Before you can define who you are, you have to first understand your personality. Ask yourself questions, such as “what do I love to do?”, “how would my perfect day look?”, “what brought me joy as a child?” or “what scares me?”. When you can answer those question, you can use the information to discover what your personality is.
Types of Personality Traits
There are many different personality types, 16 according to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, but it is sometimes difficult to classify a person as a single type. There are many different personality traits you can possess and they may not all fit into one category.
Personality traits are simply:
Positive Personality Traits
Some personality traits are positive:
- Being honest and taking responsibility for your actions are admirable qualities.
- Adaptability and compatibility are great traits and can help you get along with others.
- Drive and determination will help you keep going no matter what.
- Compassion and understanding mean you relate well to others.
- Patience is a virtue and also a good personality trait.
- Courage will help you do what’s right in tough situations.
- Loyalty is a good quality to possess, making others trust you.
Here are a few more to consider:
Negative Personality Traits
Other personality traits are negative. For example:
A number of other characteristics, though not necessarily “bad”, can also be considered negative personality traits. For example:
- Self deprecation
- Fear of failure
View this list of 198 personality traits and their definitions.
Determining Personality Types
Your personality type can be determined by many factors. One way to discover your personality type is to approach it scientifically, by testing yourself and having a psychologist analyze you. A personality test is rather simple. By answering a few questions about your likes and dislikes and where you would like to go in life, a professional can give you a report detailing the type of personality you have.
In psychology, there are five factors that determine different personality traits. The big five factors are:
- Openness: appreciation for a variety of experiences.
- Conscientiousness: planning ahead rather than being spontaneous.
- Extraversion: being sociable, energetic and talkative.
- Agreeableness: being kind, sympathetic anad happy to help.
- Neuroticism: inclined to worry or be vulnerable or temperamental.
Your personality test assesses how much of each of the big five factors you possess. This helps you to gain more insight into your internal experience so you can make sense of your own thoughts and behaviors.
Another way of determining your personality type is to just spend some time taking a long, deep look at yourself. Asking yourself some searching questions is a great way of discovering just what kind of person you are. Ask yourself things like: “if you found an animal hurt and alone, what would you do?” or “if you won the lottery how would you spend your time and money?”.
How Do I Create My Personality?
Your personality is set by no one but you. It is in the actions you take and the decisions you make. Either you are a patient person or not; a responsible person or not. You may not be able to change your personality type, but you can change aspects of your personality by taking determined, active steps to become a more balanced person.
Taking up a hobby is a great way to become a well rounded individual. Sports can help you learn teamwork, arts and crafts can make you more patient, volunteering can help you become more caring. Even just reading a book can expand your horizons and push you to be better.
How Can My Personality Affect Others?
Being positive and upbeat can influence everyone around you, and so can negativity. For example, a friendly smile to a stranger can brighten up their day, just as a glare can frighten them and cause their mood to drop. Bear in mind the famous saying, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you”.
While you may not be able to help it if you are having a bad day, or if you don’t like doing a particular task, changing your attitude changes everything. Complaining and sulking will only make time drag when doing an unpleasant job. Thinking about a fun experience, singing a song in your head or even humming can make the job (and you) just a little easier to deal with. Being a more pleasant person helps everyone.
Understanding examples of personality traits is a great way to start the journey into self discovery. Remember, if you’re up for the challenge, you can make positive changes to your personality.